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Is it safe to go to Pakistan (Lahore) alone to meet my boyfriend (pakipolice officer)

edited May 2014 in India and Asia
I need some advice, I'm currently in California but thinking of traveling to Lahore Pakistan to meet my boyfriend ,we've never met yet ,he's a police officer and we plan to marry,however I'm a little scared Bcz I'm not Muslim and I'm a white ,blonde female ,please help


  • Please read the comments I made to your other post

    Please be careful,not just travelling to Lahore alone but because of the following.

    1. Pakistan is a very conservative country and it is unusual for Pakistani men to marry foreign non Muslim women. Although it is allowed in Islam for a Muslim man to marry a Christian woman. It is unusual for Pakistani men to marry foreign women in Pakistan.

    2. Pakistani's live with their extended family of parents, siblings, children and grandparents in the same house. Even a grown man will not go against his family, so does the family know about you? Do they accept you?

    3. If this man is a senior police officer, its highly likely he is married. In Pakistan men can legally marry four wives. A Muslim is not supposed to have sexual intercourse until they marry,so your man may want to marry you just to sleep with you. 

    4. You are going to a country where you cannot understand the language ,where an Imam can be bought in at a few minutes notice to perform a Nikah, (wedding) which is conducted in Urdu and you may not even be given a marriage certificate.

    5. If you marry, your husband may try to make you become a Muslim and if you do change religion your life will completely change. You cannot be forced to change your religion but believe me it happens.

    You need to think a lot more before you embark on a trip to Pakistan and marriage.

    By the way in the UK the term "Paki" is considered to be derogatory and racist.
  • Wise advice!
  • No but but omg aren't these guy relentlessly romantic....hhhhh I was supposed to go to Cairo and have to break it to him it won't happen! He will be difficult about it :(
  • I would say, in general, that travelling to a foreign country alone to meet a man you've never met is an absolutely terrible idea.
  • scary... definitely scary. please reconsider this idea for your own safety.

    love is really blind..
  • I think you like adventure. But truly said that Pakistan is very conservative country. so be careful about that. 
  • edited November 2014
    Alexander101, your post was understated, Pakistani is not only a conservative country it is a highly volatile and dangerous country
  • @Alexandria u r so biased against Pakistan...can
    u tell me Pakistan more rascist than american whites against blacks?
  • No true Muslim can force a Christian to change his/ her religion....If u study history of Islam ,written by a pure scholar (not by a biased writer) ull cm to know that its against the spirit of Islam to force smone to change his religion.
  • Rosemaary, you're babbling nonsense.

  • Heather, what did you finally do?
    Rosemary made perfect sense. It is also important to keep in mind that an entire group of people, of one religion, cannot be judged as one. Every person is different. All Christians are not kkk. Trust your intuition.
  • Oh here we go another babbler !
  • "... It is also important to keep in mind that an entire group of people, of one religion, cannot be judged as one..."

    Very true. But in some circumstances (like Pakistan) generalizations can certainly be made and they can still be rational, reasonable and accurate statements.

    In fact Pakistan is the exact opposite of your example that all Christians are not KKK. The inaccuracy of that generalization is, of course, painfully obvious and self evident.

  • Ya right guys..pakistan is a very conservative country..I got engage with Pakistani guy for morethan 3years now..I know him for morethan 4years....he is already married but since he is Muslim he can get married 4times no issue..but he just engage me and no nikha or wedding happen I even convert Muslim for 3years now..because of love i decided to live with him in Dubai till I get pregnant n go back home in my country..bringing my baby..he did nothing after all..I am now on my due month asking for his support but ears are close..the most sad part is I will deliever ceasarian section with bit expensive n i never get anything from him..I tell u my story not to get you symphaty but to open ur mind n take from my own expirience with pakistani guy..
  • I think it is fair to write that it is not safe to travel to Pakistan. There are many lovely people there, but you only need run across one person, whatever their religious or ethnic background, to be in dire danger. I'm taking the advice @Alethia wrote VERY seriously.

    This is from the US Department of State about travel in Pakistan. There's more: this is from the Consulate General of the US in Karachi, Pakistan as of 15 December 2015

    From everything I've read, I'd say, No, it is not safe to travel in Pakistan
  • edited June 2016
    One minute silence for Alethia, please. you'll get tired, take a breath. Your struggle, lol. Any Pakistan'i did this with your family, if not then hope soon this will happen in the same country where you living, then you realise.
    Who cares about people, we need to care about person whom we getting married. But I got it, you want to prove something else. I don't wanna say your statements are wrong neither I wanna prove wrong. Who believe let them believe, who cares. Cheers
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