I have been having a relationship with a woman for a few months now. She says she is from Athens in Greece but since her parents died she is staying in Nigeria while her Attorney sorts everything out for her inheritance. At first she was staying in a motel but has now moved into her Attorney's house with him and his family. We had been talking for several weeks and we got on great, just texting and emailing each other. After those few weeks she said that we could talk more on MSN but she didn't have internet access at the motel, so I send her £50 so she could set that up. A week later we were talking every day on MSN. By this point I had actually started to have some strong feelings for this girl, she seemed too good to be true (and she probably is).Things carried on great she asked me if I could help her pay the motel bills, and also said she needed some money for tampons and food. This seemed like a reasonable request, so I said I would happily help with that.
We had been talking and getting along brilliantly. We even discussed sex, having children and spending our future together as man and wife. This was about 2 months into the relationship. About a month ago she started telling that she was depressed staying over there all alone. She was telling me that people are poor and she doesn't feel safe. Anyway, once I had helped with the motel bills she moved in with her Attorney and his family. We started discussing living together at that point, and she expressed a wish to come and live with me because she felt so lonely over there. This, also, seemed like a reasonable request. I sent her a total of around £500 to help her pay for the flight and for travelling expenses.
We got to the point where she had gone to the airport and had everything sorted for the flight. Only she didn't know about R.A.M. (refundable allowance money) and because she didn't have it they wouldn't allow her to fly. After causing a scene and being arrested (apparently) her Attorney picked her up from the station. She had been crying the whole time. The R.A.M. is £1,200. I don't have access to that sort of cash. The last few days she's been saying that she will commit suicide if she can't be with me...
There has always been the nagging thought in the back of my mind that this is too good to be true, but I was always willing to take that risk. Up until now. Now I don't know what to think. I don't know what to do. Obviously, I don't this person to harm herself.
How can I find out if she is a scammer or if she is genuine?
Is there really such a thing as R.A.M.?
I would really appreciate some help resolving this. Thank you