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    hi, (keep in mind everytime i sent money i did it western union to her aunt and one time to her cousin's bf because her cousin couldnt pick it up due to work.)
    just wanted to let u ladies know this happens to men as well it sounds like your stories but for some reason, i dont know why, but im not sure if im being scammed even though it feels like it. heres my story can u help me decide?... so i met this girl on yahoo messenger from new zealand..(she even speaks with a new zealand/aussie accent) im from hawaii. because both of us are pacific islanders i feel kind of like she wouldnt scam me because we have some very similar island traditions and attitudes... so after a couple months of us talking/dating online she asks for my number and tells me she has found a job in las vegas( where i live now) at st rose dominican hospital.she says that they are providing housing and an advance on her first check. its a real hospital i checked it out before i sent any money.she tells me she wants to start something with me up here, and that she will be flying here and has a stopoff in hawaii and that she'll keep in touch.she gives me a date and times shes going to be in hawaii and when she arrives in vegas. she says her aunt works for the airlines and can get a good price and she only needs 250 more.she says she can pay me back with her advance when she gets here. me being an idiot paid it.

    day of arrival in hawaii...... several hours after she is sposed to call me, she does saying that theyre going to deport her back to new zealand because of unpaid fines or something. and that she doesnt understand why theyre doing it because she had been paying off the fines in installments... she sounds distressed and is crying and tells me her aunt has paid for most of the fines which were in the thousands and she only needs another couple hundred and that she cant leave the room to access her money so if i could pay for it. her "aunt" then txts me saying how lucky amy is to find a guy like me and that she told amy to not let me go. she calls me again and is crying saying how she doesnt want to miss out on her "new life with her new job etc." i pay again... she seems to know the time difference and is telling me when she is going to arrive in vegas. she says its going to take a couple days and she will stay with her cousin and her cousins bf. she then calls me later telling me shes a rape victim and the guys there were making her uncomfortable and if i could send 85$ because thats the difference in flight rates. she again is crying and saying she is losing it. i figured what the heck its 80$? i paid it. she sounds so happy and says she'll be in vegas tomorrow because her aunty got her a late flight.

    she "gets to vegas". she calls me on time this time. says she has to go to the housing facilities they have there for international staff and they have a car for her also. i then dont hear from her the rest of the day. the next day shes in prison because she didnt have a "permit/license to drive in the usa" and she needs to pay for an exemption. she says she used her money to pay for it etc and if i could cover the balance... again in the couple hundreds...

    the story is way longer but im going to cut it short. lets just say she did this a couple more times and im a sucker. and i fell for it. im down 2 grand. however i have found out she was scamming me. i have all her info down. i figured out that she and her "aunt" is the same person... i have alot of our messeges saved on my phone and computer because about halfway through i started thhinking she might be scamming me... i dont even thhink she left new zealand. however she gave me her address, phone numbers, and i have both her "aunts" email and hers. and the passwords to both because she had to tell me them for me to buy her stuff. is there anything i can do to get my money back? or am i just screwwed
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    What if he choses to use some other pictures ?
  • well i knew it was a scam from strat So i told them i would rather get on a plane and come get the pup this is what they wrote me thHello
    Thank you for contacting me about my Yorkie puppies
    that i am giving out for adoption , first i will like to tell you how
    happy i am that there is someone out there that is interested in
    providing a home for them . The puppies are 12 weeks old today and i
    have had them for 8 weeks ( 2months ), they are 3.1 and 3 ibs
    and they will make a very good companion to you , they are Registered
    and vaccinated and will come along side all these documents , also they
    have a 1 year health warranty and guarantee . Pure breed puppies the
    Male named Eddie And the female Haily , have separate parents . They
    will be coming with their crates their feeding booklet.The puppies are
    Nudged , not house broken , home trained , They are Micro Chipped
    ,Hand Fed ,DNA tested and USDA
    Standard and on date with all shots and health papers needed . So all
    you will pay to have them home is the fee for their papers works and
    the adoption papers , along with ownership transfer . so for one you
    will pay $100 and both will be $200 and thats all .

    So for delivery i am located in Victoria Bay(Cameroon) and that's
    where i will ship them from and that takes
    approximately 8 hours then you have them home , so i am giving them out
    over there because of my working condition and i do not have time to
    look [p to then . so all the money you are paying for this transaction
    will be
    the money for their paper works as i earlier told you because i already
    got their shipping tickets . And that is going to be $200 to have
    them both home because that's the fee for the papers .so i will only
    like to give both to the same home because they love each others
    company . so for the preparations and the shipping i will like to know
    this of you .
    1:full names

    2:home address



    5:phone number

    6:zip code

    7:nearest airport to your location

    with all the required information i will be able make all
    documents and send the puppies over to your location as soon as
    ey never contacted me again
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    This is about my nephew. He met Sandra James on Facebook. She contacted him, saying she is from Albuquerque and is very interested in meeting my nephew but oh boo hoo, she was in a car accident in Lagos, Nigeria, where she has been helping her parents in their Christian ministry and broke her leg. She was scheduled to come home (to Albuquerque) but she can't leave the country until her hospital bill have been paid. My nephew (who isn't very bright) told her he didn't have any money, but he would do everything he can do to help her get home. She has been talking to him on the phone and now says she is sure he is the man she wants to marry and can't wait to move in with him. Now she's told him she has a friend in Texas who will deposit money in my nephew's account and then my nephew will be able to send the money to her account in Lagos. I've tried and tried to tell him this is a scam, but he doesn't believe me and is sure "true love" will prevail. I'm worried about this maybe being a way to get money to terrorists. I'm have dreams of the FBI knocking on my door and seizing everything we own. Has anyone heard of her and is this just a stupid scam that could get my nephew arrested or could we possible lose everything we own? I'd appreciate any help I can get at this point.
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    TELL YOUR NEPHEW TO RUN!!! THIS IS A SCAM!!!! Let him read the profiles from this site and check out
    and if he won't listen then I suggest if you have a joint bank acct, to get your money out immediately.. I have been studying all of these sites since my incident with the Nigerian Scammers and they are everywhere...., Singlesnet.. facebook,, Plenty of fish... and the list goes on and on... I have friends who are in the police and FBI and there's not much that can be done to these scammers in Nigeria... Anything to do with Nigeria(Russian) and asking for money is almost 100% scams, that is the info I have been given per police in the Cleveland area...
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    The only trouble your nephew will be in is, out of money !!! and his heart broken....
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    The scam for Lewis Ficher continues!! I got the same story that gods child got only thing is I never spoke with him on the phone. Things just seemed so weird so I did some digging. I feel totally violated. I wish it was a way to get these people caught and put in jail. I hate that I gave him my phone number. I hope that loser never calls. Here is the email address he is going by now. Look out for this one. He is still using a kid named Craig as his child that lives in Alaska with his mother and going on and on about the exwife that cheated on him with his friend Johnny. I wonder if he cuts and pastes his stories to see who will bite? It just sounded so crazy so anyway I was on match and he blocked my account after initial contact and all of a sudden later he wanted to become my friend on facebook. Do you believe this loser made up an account. I think facebook should be warned. He currently only has 9 friends but he is about to be minus one!!!

    From: Lewis Ficher <[email protected]> this is the latest email address that he is using. Oh yeah supposedly right now he is in Africa doing business and he will be there for two weeks. I told him via email to not ever contact me again!!!

    - Show quoted text -
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    MICHAEL WILSON is on the prowl again. I met him on about a week ago. He had me email him outside of website and shortly after pulled his profile. I see now that it's a bunch of copying and pasting that this guy is doing in his emails. Over the top emotional bullcrap without answering any questions. Same thing as Bubbagirl - same background story. Exact same story.

    I told him to get lost, but I'm sure he'll be emailing me again from what I'm hearing on the blogs. I reported him to Match, but that doesn't seem to make them change any policies there. At least I tried.

    Beware of this guy.
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    "I don't know how anyone can be so bad and wicked." Is but a joke of a statement, to which I can revert by saying that I dont know how anyone can be so gullible and desperate.

    I'm more saddened that you only catch a wake up call after you had basically "sold your souls to the devil" by giving them your personal contact details; and in some cases funds to inject their lazy lifestyles.

    If your so-called online soulmate is too good to be true, he/she is exactly that. if he/she was such a charmer, why make use of online facilities rather than going about it the old-fashioned way.

    Now stop making reference to Africans or Nigerians as scammers; as the disgraceful race here is the one being fooled.
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    Has anyone met someone from the African region that was real. I have been chatting and the person doesn't ask for money, will not travel to where I am. Offered to meet there. Uses the webcam frequently. Seems genuinely nice. Been chatting for a month now. Meets online at the dedicated times and appears to do their daily activities correctly to the time differences. Is it possible that this could be a nice person just in a bad area that is over populated with the scams? Let me know what you all think.
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    hmmmm, wonder what your story is?
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    Me too what is the catch. So this is a she. She has asked that I speak to her Uncle before making arrangements to visit. Whats the catch. If I did go will I be robbed? I am being so cautious yet I feel that something is not right. That is why I asked if anyone met someone real. There still is no request for money. No request for anything. Just genuine chatting for hours at a time. Anymore thought? Has anyone been convinced to go there and what happened? Anyone have a story that can explain the catch here?
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    If you have to wonder in the least little bit if this is a scam then it probably is..... Are there decent people in Africa ... of course... but the scams are out there... I keep watch on Match since my experience and can on any day spot 2-3 scammers from their profiles. and that's not looking through all of them. and they are on singlesnet and the other dating sites also beside ther personals. I have a ton of frineds in the police and they all say...Stay away !
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    Same story, so far I have submited his pics to find if he is genuine or not, I haven't been found his pics where scammers take , i mean different sites, as u have said pretty words from a pretty face. I haven't given any cent, and I won't. He insists his love is real, I have to admit that he has class and good comman of the language. I didn't know about this, I thought all people were nice hahaha I know bad ones outside, the worst part is no the money they take from people, it is how they hurt, mainly woman. I will post his mail, till I am sure about his identity. Now everytime I got a mail, i trace the origin here you have the link to do it.
    You only need to clik on the name of the message with the right mouse, get the IP and post on the link and you can get where it comes from. I hope it helps.
    If anybody can help me to find if the pictures are genuine or not, please let me know. I will appreciate your help
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    Ha ha ha ha ha look at them crying everyone of you deserves whats coming to you your forefathers were all around Africa centuries back looking for who to cheat and scam is time for you to pay back all this let me understand judgement is here on earth you do me i do you God no go vess.
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    Oh boy, these people almost got me. I listed my BlackBerry on Facebook's Marketplace yesterday, and within an hour, I had two interested buyers. I slashed the price since I really need the money. Anyway, I contacted one of the people asking about the phone, a "Shannon Moore". At first, she seemed normal, even when she said it would cost $70-80 to ship the phone to her fiance in Lagos, Nigeria. Red flag #1. Keep in mind that "Shannon" is supposedly American, but relationships like that are quite common. I told her that would bring the total cost to about $250. For some reason, Shannon agreed to pay me $250 for the phone AND send me $100 for shipping. Just like that, even though I'm selling it for the bargain price of $150. Seems to me that an American wouldn't have had any trouble. Red Flag #2. I replied again, saying that she'd misunderstood, and that everything would come to $250. We exchanged Paypal info. That's when it became crystal clear:

    Hello i just want to inform you that i have made the payment.You will receive payment confirmation from pay pal via your pay pal email id,Once you have received the payment confirmation from pay pal mail out the item through USPS Express mail to this address below:

    Name:young bukola
    Address:NO 8 Rafiu ipaye street Ijeshatedo
    City: surulere
    State: Lagos
    Country: Nigeria

    get back to me with the tracking number once the item has been posted nice doing business with you.

    An American wouldn't be this bad with the English language, or that relaxed with paying way more than the original price. It's an ID thief using a stolen card. I told "Shannon" that a friend had gotten a buyer for the phone without me knowing, and apologized, and said that I would return the money when it came. There is no pending payment, btw. I don't know if I should report the account to Facebook or PayPal.
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    WOW....All of these things I read on here really did not amaze me but disappointed me. I am from Canada and I have been traveling Nigeria for the past 3 yrs now. I have lived there in Lagos in many areas. What brought me there? Scam of coarse. I had fallen in love with this guy and his pics were for real but he had first told me he was from Florida.After a few days...when they understand you are hooked then tell you that they are sorry and that they have something to tell you. That's when they tell you they are originally from Nigeria. You then believe they are amazing to at least have told you the truth. They claim they have done so because they are madly in love with you. Once that is done, they also start asking for cash as they want to go and meet with you. The money include plane ticket, passport fees (they claim not to have one yet), visa money, and so on. They then go beyond limits and also claim for other things as operation for there family or money for car fixing and so on. All of you must know something..the Nigerian population is made of of Muslims and Christians and some catholic in most part. They are very religious and these scammers go to church every Sunday. Some of them are even married and have children. The one I went to meet 3 years ago was married (even thought he had claimed his wife had died in a car accident). The wife was even living with us as he was pretending she was his cousin. The mother in law even stayed with us a couple of days pretending she was the aunty. These people can go to so much length to make us believe.He now has 2 kids and still is with the "so called cousin".
    After a year or so of foolishness on my part, I met another Nigerian through a friend in Nigeria while I was living there. It was this same Nigerian who helped me out of this scammers' grip. He was very nice and wanted to help. He immediately had told me that I was definitely being scammed. This one helped me a lot. As I was in Nigeria with my 2 adolescents and staying in a motel, bills were piling up. We were getting very close and the kids started to like him a lot. He had told me he was 35 yrs old. I did not question him as it is often hard to give black men an age. After a month of regularly seeing each other, he suggested we get out of this motel as it was too expensive. He only had a small room and it was not a secure area for us so, he then asked an aunty who lived a nice apartment if we could go and live with her. She accepted and we stayed with her. After almost 5 months relationship we were talking marriage. This guy was very nice and again he had not asked for nothing. 1 month before the marriage, he came out with the fact that he was not 35 and that his passport had been falsified for reasons that he wanted to travel to London last year and his auncle had told him to change his age as it would be easier to get a visa to travel. I went mad! His real age? He was 25..10 years younger! I took a few days to think and realized he had not scammed or asked of any money or anything of the sort. It was that same man that I had fallen in love with whether he was 25 or 35 years old. So, we got married just before my stay expired (I had to go back to Canada so I would not loose my citizenship). We had planned on doing the whole visa procedure but living a distant relationship is not the best. I went back a few months later to try and see if I could not stay with him for a while but again, money was the problem and I could not bare the cost of everything. I had to go back to Canada and find a job as my old age earnings had come to an end.
    After some time, again I tried helping him as best as I could but my earnings to support my 2 kids,my husband in Nigeria (cause he has no job) and my bills were never enough.
    My story goes on, and I don't want to go on forever. I just came back from Lagos on December 13 (stayed there for one month). Ladies, please be careful there is so much I can tell you on scam. I forgot to mention, men also be woman in Nigeria does scam. They believe men are easier to scam so they use the profile of a woman but actually it is a man behind the profile. I can assure you as I personally know lots who do it.I have seen, experienced, lived with them, had gun pointed to my head by EFCC, ate their food, washed my clothes by hand, studied the Yoruba and Igbo culture , also have learned some of the pidgin English and seen also the good side of Nigeria. I even saw on this forum the name of some of the fraudsters and I also know some of them personally. I can even tell you their real names and where they live. If anyone has any questions please let me can contact me at [email protected]
    I am now working on writing a book and hopefully, I can find a publisher. As I said, my story does not end here. I am still in contact with Nigeria as I now have a business there. My husband and I don't have contact anymore even if I am still married to him but I have now moved on to better things.
    Women and Men...pls be careful and do not hesitate to contact me. NOT all Nigerians are fraudster...some of them are ok but definitely you will not meet those ones online!
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    Dear What2think
    "Has anyone met someone from the African region that was real. I have been chatting and the person doesn't ask for money, will not travel to where I am. Offered to meet there. Uses the webcam frequently. Seems genuinely nice. Been chatting for a month now. Meets online at the dedicated times and appears to do their daily activities correctly to the time differences. Is it possible that this could be a nice person just in a bad area that is over populated with the scams? Let me know what you all think."

    You have a genuine real person and all is good. When you get to Nigeria is when things will be understood by you. Whether money or not, you are still a passport of of their country and that is the thing you have to remember. Be wise!
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    Nigerian scammers don't stop when they come to our country. I was just scammed by a man who claimed to be divorced. We started dating in Oct 2010 and we would go out on weekends. Every once and a while he would ask for gas money and once asked for money to pay his car insurance. He got maybe 40 bucks off of me but I think he was leading up to alot more cause when my income tax came in he kept asking how much I got and what I had left from it. He even asked if I would have my tubes untied so we could have a child together. These men don't care who they hurt so everyone be careful. The man who told me he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me was a calculated liar who just wants money and a child to carry on the family name. I feel sorrier for his wife cause she spent alot of money to get him to this country and this is how he repays her. The worst part is is that they met cause he was scamming her and she still married him and helped him get into our country. BE CAREFUL ladies ..they aren't just online. I met him while I was out with friends. His name is Austin Ileaboy (Enahoro) was a name he had given me. His wife says he is also known as William Cole.
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    The name is Austin Enahoro Ileaboya
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    I am a Nigerian female who lives in Canada now but lived in Nigeria from birth till i was 26. Am embarrassed to hear all these scams perpetrated by Nigerians. I just want to correct peoples impression about Nigerians. Not all Nigerians are scammers....we have loads of people who are into legitimate business unfortunately a few lazy Nigerians sit on the computer looking for whom to scam. I once had an experience when i posted my car online for sale. These idiots started sending me emails with long cock and bull story of how they were on a project and would not be able to come see the car but i should ship it and then i will get extra $500 for doing that. I knew they were scams....all i did was to tell them "they were out of their mind" and they never would respond back. My advise is feel free to talk to people online if u like but the moment they start to request for money - push the delete button....The moment they start to tell u how much they love u and want to marry u without seeing u- push delete button...The moment they give u unbelievable offers- push delte button. Also forget about dating someone u cannot see face to face..... deal locally. Sometimes if its not a scam of collecting money from u then it could be a scam of them trying to use u to get papers to travel to europe or north america.
    I can tell a scammer just by a line of chat.....U see, Nigerians are very educated and have good command of English....if he is making grammatical errors alot then he is a scammer....a decent Nigerian can construct good sentences.
    If his story comes with symphathy...its a scam
    Am Nigerian and am so proud to be one even though these scammers are denting our image.
    Pls dont EVER send money to anyone...never give out your personal information..
    Am Nigerian and there will never be a story good enough to scam me.
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    DUPED5272 -- Please contact me at [email protected] I have some VERY important information, for you. I can not stress to you how important this information is to you. Lisa
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    dear duped5272, I also met Austin Ileaboya, not as a scammer either,not to say that he wasnt though. We started in March of 2010 until this past week. He told me that his marriage was over, that whole story. I had even spoken to his family on several occasions over the phone.I thought things were great. I flew to maine to be with him, we went out with his friend, had a great time. I never knew that he was also scamming me along with who knows how many others. He told me that he loved me as well, and that he wanted me to have my tubes untied so that we could have a child together, that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, that i was his true love..blah, blah, blah....We spoke daily via phone, text, web cam.
    He recently went back to Nigeria to visit, he called me from the airport, when he had to make the connecting flight, he called daily from Nigeria. We had originally planned for him to come to spend a few weeks with me right after the Nigeria trip but his trip was cut short after only three weeks in Nigeria. I didnt have time to make the arrangements with such short notice. Anyway, bottom line is I was duped as well.

    Well, late last week I received a phone call from his wife and we spoke. She told me about several others that she had found out about and that he had done the exact same thing to them, but she went on to say that they love each other and are going to work things out. Im very hurt and humiliated at the same time. Not only was he seeing me , he was seeing you at the exact same time and who know how many other women.

    As of today, I am still getting phone calls and texts begging me to go back to him.
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    Dear imhurt2. We need to talk. I know Austin. Contact me @ catnap33hues yahoo.
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    OK ladies. Go ASAP to the clinic. Austin had a difficult time getting here to the because he is HIV Positive. His stupid wife signed additional papers allowing him here. Please report what this man is doing to immigration. He needs to be stopped. OMG if he has a child and gives all of you HIV??? How could she allow this to happen to you? He is evil incarnate.
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    I also know austin ileaboya, and I am ashamed to say that I to had a brief relationship with this man. He said he was in the middle of a divorce, and reassured me that he no longer loved his wife. He knew what to say. Now I'm finding out that he is HIV positive. How can immigration allow someone into this counrt knowing that he may spread this horrible disease? I'm terrified now! How can someone knowingly infect others? Omg! His wife knew this? Then the cow is equally responsible and should be held accountable! Damn them both! I will be tested, and if I test positive I will do everything in my power to have him deported! And possibly press charges if I'm able to. Thank you balogun, I'm scared of what I may find out but I thank you for the info.
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    Balogun, thank you for the information. I know him as well, since my brief encounter with him many, many months ago, I have since been in a good relationship with another man, and now, not only may my life be ruined, i may have unknowingly ruined the life of another as well, by passing on a disease. I agree, he is an evil incarnate. I also agree that every woman that has had any intimate contact with this man needs to be reported asap! both to immigration and to the authorties and hopefully charges can be filed. If is wife was aware of his status then she too should be punished! it may be that she now has the disease and figures, if she caught it, who cares if anyone else does! damn them both to hell!
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    Hello everyone..I know for a fact that he was a Nigerian Scammer! That's how he met his" true love
    " that brought him over to the states. It was told to me that he is HIV positive and yes, his lovely wife knew this information. She doesn't know how to keep a secret, that's what drugs and alcohol do to you, and maybe that's a good thing. Now the world can know what a horrible couple they are! She won't leave him because she may have already contracted the disease and who would want an overweight, middle aged woman with HIV?! Please, everyone involved, get tested! Ihope everyone tests negative! Good luck to you all! God Bless!.
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    To those involved with/pretending to be involved with Austin Ileaboya:

    Wow! You clearly don't know his wife at all. She is not HIV+, she is not a drug addict or an alcoholic. Immigration KNEW of his health status when they granted him a visa, I'm not sure how you think you can get him deported on information they already have. He did the paperwork necessary to legally enter this country. Your anger isn't enough to send him away. Just because you're an american doesn't entitle you to decide who is here and who is not regardless of how evil he has been.

    All of his affairs were shocking to her as well. He had everyone duped. Not just the mistresses. And in fact, one of the mistresses KNEW he was married and continued to carry on an affair with him. If someone tells you they're married but unhappy .. married but doesn't love their wife.. whatever they come up with, have sense enough to steer clear. Let them work on their marriage or end it before getting involved. Who are you to become a 3rd party? Let them deal with their own problems. Go for an available man.

    HIV is a threat to all people, Americans and Africans alike. Why are you screwing around with people you met in bars or wherever? It's not like HIV is unheard of and you can't contract it from an American. Sounds like you all jump from one bed to another and then attack his WIFE for it? She is also an American and learning the ways of Nigerians. She married him, gave him her love, devotion, money, time, heart and body. To HIM and no other. She has always been faithful to him and has tried in vain to make it work despite his lies and secrets. She had NO proof until one of you contacted her. When we love someone, we WANT to believe what we want to believe. She is not to be persecuted for HIS mistakes. She is God fearing and sincerely believes in the sanctity of marriage and believed he did too. How dare you attack her for HIS promiscuity. She did NOT bring him to this country to spread a disease, it was a personal choice she made out of love believing with all her heart that he was with her alone. It was a risk she took for HERSELF alone. She NEVER would have brought him here if she knew he was a whore. If you think otherwise, you're a fool. You were duped by him, why can't you understand that she was too? To say she's staying with him because she now has contracted HIV, are you her doctor? Have you seen her blood test results? Are you even aware of HIPPA regulations regarding such things? She is NOT HIV positive. To say she is with him because she's middle aged and can't get another man.. get a clue. Are you all men? Believe me, there are men that would love a chance with such a wonderful caring woman and would appreciate her for who she is. You make it sound like she was sitting at home urging him to go out, find unsuspecting women and sleep with them. Be serious. What wife would do that. You have NO idea what she was thinking or going through all this time. Don't make assumptions and slander people. You just don't know what people have been through until you have lived their life or walked with them.

    You will never meet a kinder soul than Austin's wife. He is an absolute FOOL for not seeing what he has in such a wonderful wife. It sounds to me like he played with another kind soul who deserves better than this too, the mistress that didn't know he was married. His wife is suffering too from all of these things he's done and you kick her while she's down? What kind of monster are you? This woman is dealing with all of these revelations and still takes the time to console his one mistress who was hurt by him too. Who could do that? She is not stupid nor is she a fool. She trusted the love she had for a man and gave it all she had to make it work. Don't we all take that chance when we marry someone? Why bother marrying if you aren't willing to take that chance? And if she does finally decide to walk away from him, she will let it go and not become a bitter old screw like some others, warning the world of Nigerians and their ways.. preying on websites and forums looking for an opportunity to destroy marriages and relationships. She will move on with her life and be stronger for it while some of you sulk in your own bitterness. Curse her all you want. She's above you.

    @afriendlywarning and @Lisa if you are the same person or not.. its clear you are someone who was burned by a Nigerian and you are one of those pathetic people who obsess over it forever. Let it go, go live your life. Hate and bitterness is not poison to them, it's poison to you. Forgive them and forget about them. So you got burned, so many did, and continue to. You're turning into bitter old hags lusting after vicious gossip. It's ugly. Many of us are aware of your little Nigerian hating clique and we pity you. You may not know who we are but we all know who you are and steer clear of your viciousness. You're just as ugly as the Nigerians you hate so intensely. You have let them turn you into this. So sad.

    To the genuinely duped:

    This is the very first time I'm posting this type of thing. Not out of bitterness and anger like the hags I mentioned above, I don't prowl the internet looking for people to scare.. Just be aware, as far as Nigerians wanting a child with you.. read Nigerian law a little closer. The father OWNS the child. Many times he doesn't want a child WITH you, he wants a child FROM YOU! Child abduction to Nigeria is not uncommon and not possible to undo once it's done. Nigeria has NO treaties with the United States. Our court orders are not enforceable there. His family will usually pressure him to give them a baby, if that's the case, he has no regard for you at all. You are a means to an end. Many of them are born and bred in the kingship mentality as a matter of survival. They want to be king of the world and all you are is a tool to obtain that end. This particular type of Nigerian knows how to lie and sweet talk to get what they want. They KNOW what you want to hear. They're master manipulators and well trained in human psychology and how to make best use of it, not unlike satan and his minion who have studied us and know how we think. They may not be able to name psychological disorders or know anything of the subject formally at all but they know human nature very well. They will tell you the importance of a mother and father. Do they really have ONE mother and ONE father? That's a key question to get the answer to. Many times you won't get the truth on that even by the family that is so good to you and would never lie to you. They will stress the importance of children and how much they love them. The kids are property. They are their joy, fine, only to attain their own kingship.

    The sweet, kind words these types of people use with one another means nothing. Even when your friends tell you what a Nigerian is up to, they still don't know the extent of it. They warn you of things that are not happening and have no idea how bad the truth really is. Green cards are not always the goal. Sometimes, they do love you in their own way and they do generally come here to be with you but do not understand what an American expects from a marriage so they do it their way.. polygamy, adultery etc. and they know better than to tell you what their really up to. They know what you want to hear and believe. Americans, Canadians, Europeans.. just don't think this way, on average. Sometimes their plan is so dark, so sinister, we couldn't have dreamed it up in a thousand years. You could write amazing novels using them as character examples.

    Pay attention to the little things. Stories about their mothers, how they dine with you, if they share the blankets.. that kind of thing. The little things betray the bigger things. Is there a general attitude of "serve thyself first"? If there is, be wary.

    Listen to their song lyrics, read their literature. You will see what I'm talking about. No one is a friend. You are a means to an end. Their is something about the method of child rearing there that causes a mass amount of people to develop into narcissistics. I am convinced they are genuinely unaware that others should be treated with actual dignity beyond lip service to used to keep them calm. If you are involved with a Nigerian, I urge you to google narcissism and who falls for them.. see if you, and they, fit the bill. 9 times out of 10 you will.

    If you think your relationship with them does not sound like the above, you are the rare example. Good for you. Enjoy your life with the person you love! Enjoy it, don't let people keep you down with their bitterness. Marriage without trust is pointless. If you have decide to suspend disbelief and give it your all, I wish you well. That's what marriage is after all anyway isn't it? You have to dive in and give it 100% or its not going to work no matter who it's with or where they're from.
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    Word travels fast.. I'm not friends with you, hag, on fb. But the people who pity you are all talking about your FB status. You're really interested in Austin and his wife aren't you? Why is this so interesting to you? Don't you have anything better to do then get involved in other people's drama? It has nothing to do with you. You're pathetic. Your marriage is over, he was a scum and you're free now. People actually CARE about the people who ARE involved, you're capitalizing on their drama for your own amusement? Ask yourself, why is someone else's suffering so enjoyable for you? What is missing in your life that makes you this way?
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    I do hope all of you that were involved with him will step up, be tested and report him. These men are coming here using people to get here and continuing the scamming when they are here. Report this behavior to Homeland Security and Immigration PLEASE!! It does not make you a bitter hag to stand up and tell your story. We are all victims and these men really are narcissistic. Those of us that went thru it are NOT all bitter. I do NOT regret any of it but I will not lay down in shame that I fell for it. I am here to help anyone that needs it and I thank the person that sent me this link so I can let you ladies know what pain these men cause. It is sad they see me as a bitter hag instead of realizing their men will do the same to them that mine did. He was NOT different and they WILL cheat and scam just like he did. Austin, Emmy and others have proven that.
  • edited 3:20AM
    When I first wrote on here the hurt and anger took over. I needed to express my pain at how it felt to be used and lied to. I wish I hadn't posted anything because the terrible things that some of you are saying about his wife is horrible. I met with her and we talked at length and I know she isn't the truly evil person you make her out to be. She was just as much a victim in this as I was. She had no idea he was with anyone else. Please don't kick her when she is down also.

    Accusations of HIV is very strong and I pray that its not so. And if it's not true, shame on the person who would be so evil to post something like that to get satisfaction at hurting someone else.

    I am sorry to his wife for my posting (the first post) and making his name public because I seem to have caused her more pain and I never meant to. So please from here on out no more posts or bashing his wife. Also have to say he hasn't done anything alot of American men haven't done themselves.

    American men lie just as well and cheat on their wives, so to say it's just because he is a Nigerian is wrong and was wrong of me to do in my original post. It was in anger and pain that I lashed out. I am sorry for all the pain and humiliation I have caused.

    The above hags really do need to just move on with your life as I am. Life is too short to be miserable, find happiness and just let this be a lesson learned. God bless everyone this has affected and hope that happiness will follow in time. God bless
  • edited March 2011
    DUPED5272 = A woman who has been with Austin.
    letsbehonest and Duped5272 = Austins wife, obviously.
  • edited March 2011
    Thank you 2 my 2 friends who supported me here. I am Austin's wife. Only those two woman know me. I am a college educated woman trained in detection of mental illness and substance abuse, maintaining a 4.0 GPA throughout college. I love my family and friends and will and have done anything for them. I am a Christian who tries with much imperfection to live my life like Jesus did.

    There are only 2 woman on this forum who I see telling the truth about their affair with my husband. They are both AMAZING and strong woman, I pray for them and only feel ill feelings towards the one who knew my husband was living with me. Like it has been said before, you have no business in a person's life if there is a spouse involved. When you see the divorce papers, then you know he is free to be involved and not before. I wish both these woman well, amazingly they are so worried about me and have really been supportive. I feel so horrible that my husband hurt them, us.

    The rest of you, Jayne Balogun and Mary Ellen Ikekhide, I know you are the authors of the other letters. You use your facebook website as a Nigerian hate site disguised as a scammer support site. And don't forget, your men were scamming you before you marrried them so stop whining about other Nigerians being scammers. You're bitter woman and I'm sure no man would come within 300 feet of you if they have viewed your FB website.

    (Thanks to all who have recently joined us. Please check all the notes and links and feel free to ask questions. Maryellen and I (my name is Jayne) are the admins for this site. )


    I notice many omissions in the FB site these woman have under the guise of helping others not be scammed. First Jayne has yet to tell her full story, how when her husband was in Nigeria she would set up profiles on dating sites so the IP address couldn't be tracked to Nigeria and helped him communicate with these woman to scam them out of money. She sent phony money orders from the states to get woman to cash them at their banks and send her money to send to her husband in Nigeria. She talked to men on the phone hiding her number to scam them into thinking she was the woman they were communicating online with...when it was her husband pretending to be a woman. Her husband left her after her unstable emotions drove him over the edge. When she refused to divorce him, he romanced her and convinced her to divorce him from their Nigeria marriage so they could have a U.S. marriage. He told her he believed someone had "cursed" their Nigerian marriage....she believed him, paid for the divorce...and no he didn't marry her again!

    Apparently her love of Nigerians remained strong as she "dated" a Nigerian claiming to be a actor and another man who got her to send him $400. This was after her divorce. I was in Nigeria when Austin called this man and he was laughing about scamming Jayne and saying she deserved it and invited us all out to drink beer with him on Jayne's money!

    Mary Ellen is the joke of Facebook. Their first FB site had to be shut down because Mary Ellen's rantings were so bad people stopped frequenting the site. Some of us enjoyed reading her comments, they were hilariously full of misspellings, grammatical mistakes and lack of was like a train wreck, you couldn't help but look. She also has been arrested for Domestic Violence in May of last year and her case status can be found in District Court for Bernalillo County.

    These 2 woman are the ones you take their words as truth.....and please notice that they both continue to use their Nigerian husband's last names? It is not my nature to say such mean things about people but the same courtesy appears devoid for me. One last comment, I was called a alcohol and drug user and a cow...have you looked up Jayne Wessel on FB? Isn't that a pic of her drunk and dancing and looking sooo attractive????

    My husband's life, our health, and anything else about us is our business. Shame on all you odd people who take pleasure in reading bullshit that is designed to hurt and humiliate people are sicker then they are. None of you has been divorced, cheated on, lied to or done any of those things to someone yourself???? Why is it that Mary Ellen and Jayne have no FB sites focusing on their first husbands and their divorce? Why just on Nigerians? Answer: because they are racist and history shows that idiots that pay mind to these types are racist and ill educated themselves.

    To the woman who say they screwed my husband many months ago. Who do you think you are? You pick up a man, willing have unprotected sex with them, then decide to chose one them as possibly giving you a STD???? Every person you have slept with has the potential to give you a smarter next time and stop whining about your stupidity in public.
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    I NEVER helped my ex husband with any of his activities. He denied it all to me until I caught him here in the US. I am sorry your husband has hurt you as well. Unfortunately many of these men are like this and I will not hide in shame. I WILL file a suit if you again tell complete lies about me like this. I have no idea who brought me in this and I will step out and wish you both luck. I use the last name because I am still close to some of the family and will continue to be. I do NOT hate Nigeria or those I am still close with.
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    You accuse me and my husband of having HIV with no LEGAL DOCUMENTATION. I have already spoken to someone who works for the District Attornies office about this. The legal definition is slander and it is a punishable crime. I have not made any accusations that have not already been confirmed by many of your Nigerian "friends" when I was in Nigeria. I never stepped on your toes despite what I heard and I even felt sorry when you were being the laughing stock of jokes with the guy you sent 400 to. Jayne for the 4 yrs I have known you, you make it your hobby to step into others business. You are a sick individual and one day someone will catch up with you and confront you. I invite you to come to Maine any day and face me and tell me this is lies that I say of you...don't expect to see you anytime real soon. Your other fault is you listen to others lies and pass them on and then damage people beyond imagination...this forum didn't have a thing to do with you yet you linked it on your FB can't even tell the truth when you defend yourself! I will pray for you and that the evil nature that is your life leaves you because if you chose, you could be a beautiful person.
  • edited March 2011
    Dear Mashall Birmingham or Mrs. I, (depending on what name you choose to use.)

    I want you to understand that I did not slander you, or your husband on this website. I simply asked for DUPED5272 to email me so that I could give her the infomation on your husbands positive HIV status. You, and other chose to blow up that site. I wanted to try to contact her because, it was my job as a human being to let another human being know that they are in danger. This had nothing to do with you. It was all about the man that you chose to be your husband, and the women he chose to expose to his disease.

    I am very confused as to how you can tell the women who have been with your husband sexually, that it's their fault that they have been exposed because they believed what your husband told them.

    Isn't that true for you too?

    From reading what you have written on this website, you have done much research on Nigerians and the scams that they are involved in.

    Shouldn't YOU have "had enough sense to steer clear" as well?

    The difference between you and them? They didn't willingly accept having sex with him, as their death sentence.

    You're right though, reporting him for HAVING HIV is silly, as I'm sure that the health department in your city is aware of his status. Or ARE they?


    Oh, and just so you know, it's only slander if, that which is being said, isn't true.

    It is clear that you do not deny the allegations.

    Also, I see that you have contacted the "District Attornies (sic) office," I wasn't aware that they kept Saturday hours.

    Good luck to you, as I truely believe you're going to need it.
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    lets really be honest here! tawni, you have the nerve to condemn others for posting and talking crap, but what are you doing? youre no different! youre bad mouthing someone who was brave enough to post something that needed to be shared..this is about what your husband has done not what balogun has done! and more power to her for exposing these people! and having ill will toward anybody? really? austin took advantage of everyone and told a really sad and believing story to all concerned! and i know it was michelle, your daughter, that is your one and only supporter on this forum. You are to blame for alot of this, knowing his health status and yet you didnt bother mentioning it when you contacted every woman under the sun. you are not as innocent as you want to make people think. you were fully aware of his scamming when you married him and you were fully aware of his scamming even after you were married, you were fully aware of his extramarital affairs, so drop the act! you dont know everyone that was hurt by your "husband" so how dare you call them bitter hags! they, we, are all hurt women, who also fell for a scammers lie! you are with him because you are embarrassed to finally admit that you have spent so much money on that man! you are a desperate woman in need of being in a relationship, no matter how disfunctional. be old are you? and how old is he? come on?? wake up! was he looking for a grandmother figure..i think not! he will never, ever stop what he is doing no matter how many times he professes his undying love to you! he knows you wont leave him no matter what he does, youve already proven that, so, why shouldnt he keep the scam going on with you! you are still being scammed, just admit it and move the heck on already! ALL YOU WOMEN THAT HAVE HAD A RELATIONSHIP, WHETHER LONG OR BRIEF WITH AUSTIN ILEABOYA, GET TESTED! AND EVEN IF IT COMES OUT NEGATIVE, TEST AGAIN! PLEASE! YOU ARE THE VICTIMS, NOT BITTER HAGS! YOU ALL FELL IN LOVE WITH A MAN THAT LIED. WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE ANYONE, WHETHER THEY SLEPT WITH AUSTIN THE FIRST NIGHT THEY MET OR THE 10TH NIGHT, THEY ARE STILL VICTIMS! YES, LIFE WILL GO ON, AND AS TIME PASSES THE PAIN WILL FINALLY GO AWAY..SLOWLY BUT SURELY, YOU WILL ALL HEAL!
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    I said I contacted someone with the
    District Attorney office...she works for them, but thanks for informing me of their office hours. Since you hide your name, who knows what supposedly valid info you have. I contacted you twice yesterday at the given address and you didn't reply, so yeah, you seem like a reliable source. My husband is legal in this country. He passed requirements for his visa and green card. I suppose next we will be hearing how all people americans, etc, should be deported. Where is your heart for people with illnesses? Where is your heart at all? I suppose you think all immigrants in general should be not allowed in the country if they don't fit YOUR definition of human being. You are a sick individual. I have regular health care as does my husband, we are both healthy and other then that it is none of your business. Go clean up your life before you focus on others. You are a horrible person and I feel nothing but contempt for you.
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