I've been reading all the scams about match.com
I joined the site about 3 weeks ago. Met who I thought was a great guy.
Was German just like me. Nice looking man but nothing that you would find out of the ordinary.
Civil engineer with his own company.
We fell in love in a matter of days..it started off slow. I really didn't find anything wrong with it. Wanted to get to know me slowly and was looking for someone to grow old with.
He's 49, has a daughter who just happened to turn 10 on the day they got to Spain. He said he was born in Germany, came to the UK after his Father died. His Mother passed away 10 years ago and his wife died in child birth.
He is an only child. I asked what happened to his daughters grandparents and was told that they wanted nothing to do with her or him and blamed him for the death of there daughter.
And get this...just to make it PERFECT his birthday is Feb 14th.
Now of course looking at him I thought he was just perfect. I invited him to come to Canada for Christmas. He didn't want to wait that long. He wanted to come right away. But...here's the kicker. That morning at the office an emergency came up and he had to fly to spain for 2 wks to finish a gov't house project. Didn't leave right away. Left on the Sunday.
Then the plan was to fly from there to Canada. I asked him to wait till the end of Oct because I didn't have time right now. He said whatever was convienent for me.
Didn't think nothing of it. Was thrilled he was going to come here. Had my parents feverishly cleaning and preparing the guest rooms for them. After all...he was German. What could possibly go wrong.
We chatted online. He called me from home. He was only ever online during his hrs which in London would have been 5 hrs ahead.
The emails were sweet. He wanted to treat me like a queen. Wanted to marry me. I was the women every man dreamed of marrying. I was his "ANGEL"
Wow..finally I found this great man who cared and wanted to be with me.
He wanted to relocate his company to Canada if we fell in love, wanted me to help him run the company. I
t was all believeable since none of it was over the top.
He was comfortable..not wealthy but comfortable enough that he could take care of his family.
Wanted his daughter to have grandparents which she would have gotten along with a whole family to love her.
It was great..the man had my heart.
Sent me a message and text message when he got to Spain that they arrived safe and he really missed me and wished I was with them.
It was wonderful...the next day he told me he had to buy some supplies to finish the job. He said if he bought it from Valencia he could get it right away and finish the job faster...if he bought it in Madrid it would take a couple of days but would save $10,000. Wanted my opinion on what to do. I of course thought that was really sweet so I told him to wait and safe the money.
The next day he calls me in the middle of the night to ask me to come online. HIs voice from the very beginning sounded weird. I said he sounded like someone from Pakistan..and his spelling was awful sometimes.
So I get online and he tells me that the goods are stuck at the border and he needs $5,000 to get them out.
Now considering I know all about these things, it didn't seem strange for the amount of goods and what he brought in.
I asked why they had not informed him of this when he purchased the goods and was told that they didn't have the stock from one location so they brought the stock that they had from New Zealand. Ok fine...so the two tractors he purchased and the materials are now stuck.
I asked him what he wanted me to do??? He said can you help me out with money. At that point the bottom dropped out. My heart stopped and I just sat there. I "IM" back 'NO".
He said come on, it's only $5000. I again told him I have no money, which I don't and that it was his company and if he was dumb enough not to have a back up fund that wasn't my problem.
He persisted and finally gave up and said he'd figure it out. Also said not to tell my parents since he didn't want them thinking he was a beggar.
We talked for another couple of hrs and then he said his daughter wanted to go down to the river.
He takes her everywhere with him and has her home schooled.
The pics he'd sent me were from 2007. I asked him to take a picture of the two of them today so I could see what they both looked like when I picked them up at the airport.
The picture was definately them...I was thrilled. He was real. Then he asked me again for money..and that he was sad because he really wanted to get the job done so he could come visit.
I again said no.
I then asked him to provide me with customs documents with the break down of all the materials etc and the bill for the $5000 and I"d see what I could do.
He instead sends me a really BAD looking international passport and CV documents outlining his schooling, company name etc.
I emailed him back and told him to try again. Told him he was a liar...etc....etc
I was pissed and kept sending him insulting emails. He stopped emailing me.
This past Sat he emailed me and said he was very sorry for sending false documents but he had to protect his daughter. He said that he really did want to get to know me better and that I was really cool. Also said that he realized lying wasn't going to get him anywhere.
Ok..I gave him another chance...but told him in no uncertain terms 'DO NOT ASK FOR MONEY"...well he was good for the day and then it came up again.
I told him I had no clue if he was real and that I would NOT give him any. He said I was selfish. I played the sad girlfriend and told him how sorry I was that I couldn't help.
My last email to him basically said...If your love is hinged on me giving you money, I'd rather not have it.
I haven't heard from him since.
I will not put in his yahoo address in case he is real.
Has anyone come across this scam before? He is based in London and was travelling to Spain.
His spelling was always off, but on occasion it was better than others.
I don't know. He even told me if I didn't trust him I could put the money directly into the customs bank account.
My bottom line was and still is "I have no money"..and I don't.
Any help on this one would be appreciated.