marriage after meeting on internet-advice please
I meet a man on a dating site...who was not who I he was..we chatted everday...he would not talk on cam...provided no info for contact...but did tell me with days his love for me...Lol..Red Flag...I kept chating knowing this was all BS..I am American..Single white woman...but after a while I told him..u r lying to me..Enough..I said..Look I dont care if you are a black man in Africa...If you dont be honest to me and confess to me your true self then be gone and goodbye...Because he started saying before this...I truely do love you and it is for real...Finally he did come clean...he is a black man from Nigeria...I have been told I am a Senses an sometime just know things..?? But now we talk on cam...I sse him..he is real...in no cafe...he dont ask for nothing from me..no money...nothing...he ask me to marry him and yes wanted me to go there...I said..No..I am afraid an if you really love me..then you will come here..he replied yes if thats what he needs to do to marry me he said he will...that he loves me with all his life and only wants to spend his life with me forever..he give me his address and his mothers address...and we are on facebook...I see pictures of him and his family and friends on there...his profile picture is of me...he like so many there are poor...I do not care he is poor..or different race or from an other country..I love him an he loves me...he is a believer in God an goes to Church an prays often God see our hearts n love for each other and will bring us together soon...Sadly either of us have alot of money..n now trying to figure out how to Be Together as man n wife...I am researching to see if I can find orgnazations that bring people here thru either a sponsorship or work type visa...So my story is a little different than I see on here...but he really did fall in love with me...not sure how or why...but I will see how real n true once he is here..Any advice will be appreciated..TY...Cindy...USA..
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ohhh im glad this is true but im going thru a different thing... I don't know if my guy is saying the truth I met him online he says hes American but working for a period of time there in Nigeria...asked for money for a transaccition was found fake .. ok his boss disappeared ... asked for help to pay hotel
because had no money ok I sent 1000 then for his ticket to come back to united states... same day flight he had an accident... "doctor" texted me .. how do I know it was really the doctor? I called hospital and can barely hear them .... I talk to him he seems to be in hospital but im not sure.. is there any way I can confirm this??? can u helpme:( probably not.. I don't know what to do
I had a good friend who spent a lot of time in Gambia, Africa, and finally married a man there who she knew reasonably well. Yes, she had to meet his family before they would consent to the marriage, so she knew he was sincere, but as it turned out, his sincerity was very financial, and he refused to get a job, beat her, and eventually she had to throw him out of the house and divorce him.
Cross-cultural marriages are hard enough. Matching two people from such different economic circumstances makes it even harder (no matter how little money you think you have, it it many times more than he has.) If you still think it realistic that you can really know and understand and love someone just over the Internet, then I would say at all costs you should do nothing till you have met him and his family in person. Take a trip to his home town and see what you find. It will save you from a bad mistake.
You know it was not really the "doctor." You know that this is a standard scam, and you know the guy is lying. But your romantic heart wishes it were true, so you let him make you feel obliged to help and then you make excuses when your money disappears and he asks you for still more.
There is probably no way you can confirm his story-- first, beacuse it is almost certainly not true, and second, because these scam artists have developed extremely sophisticated systems for supporting their stories. He will probably be able to send you X-rays and hospital charts if you asked him. The only possibility might be if he is working for a company from outside Africa (which would almost always be the case for an American working in Africa), if you can confirm their business activities independently, then call them at a phone number you find yourself and ask to speak to the person who hired him.
sometimes I think all this is a scam but when I talk to him he says .. how come u have doubt on me? omg I cant believe u are doing this to me after my accident I cant be lying on an accident.. I understand u don't believe in the doctor but u are talking to me now?? I need to be out of hospital soon and pay what they charged me but a friend I called to will help me I don't want ur money anymore... so I feel bad... is it me doubting on him or am I right?? I wish I had someone there I know to go verify what I don't know....
Tita,
it's an obvious SCAM!
don't let him play with your emotion and conscience.
that's their style. that's exactly how they operate.